Losing a game.

When the rule is 'win,' losing can feel unbearable. A calmer way to think about playing, not just winning, helps.

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Losing a Game

Sometimes I play a game with other people.

In a game, sometimes I win and sometimes I lose.

Losing can feel really hard. Big feelings about losing are okay.

Winning is fun, and playing the game is the fun part too.

If I feel too big, I can take a breath or a break.

I can play again. There is always another game.

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More ways to help with losing

What to expect

If winning feels like the whole point, losing feels like failing. Gently widening the point to 'playing is the fun part' and 'I can try again' makes a loss survivable. Big feelings about losing are normal.

One tip from a dad who's been there

Name your own losses out loud calmly ('aw, I lost, good game') so your child sees losing handled, not hidden. Practicing with the story before a real game makes the moment less raw.

Common questions

Should we just let my child win?

Sometimes, while the skill is new, and then lose small on purpose: one round, low stakes, quick next game. The story gives words for the feeling. The goal is 'losing is safe', not 'losing is fun'.

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